The weak links... do we need need to continually act out in our lives scenarios that shine light on the weak links in order to encourage us to replace them with stronger links?

Coming to awareness of the weaker patterns of my behavior has been no easy feat. It seems the roots to these patterns are deep and twisted, like unravelling the maze of cords behind the computer desk! I need not mention while doing that the other day i cut my hand with some glass on the floor and the cut went deep and the blood spilled out. Damn twisted cords.

Anyhow, untangling the maze of cords in my head has far less instant gratification. It's not like it's done and i can sit back happily, admire my handy work of neatly wrapping the cords and having them plugged in and lined up in order; then push the desk back in and happily go about my day with that gratification. Instead, the mass of wires twisted in my head, that are very slow to unravel and quite knotted besides, continue in my awareness throughout my day. And even if i make some headway on them, there seems to be no rewarding and instant gratification with which to view a positive outcome to my work. Or if there is, i have not yet discovered it!

Heeling ~ my DOG walks beside me because i have his best interests in mind and heart.

Healing ~ walking beside GOD because he has my best interests in mind and heart.

Recipee for Peace

Make peace with yourself.

Choose peace for yourself.

Allow peace to unfold from the inside out.

If we are only as strong as our weakest links, what prevents us from forging stronger, healthier links in place of the weak?

Self worth is a funny thing. Confusion and guilt are two robbers cloaked in the veils of righteousness, taking thought energy from us that would be better spent creating the authentic life we really deserve. These thought patterns create a weak link, if not a complete canyon, between the life we live and the life we really want to live. So where do these weak links come from and what do we do to overcome them to create stronger links between where we are and where we want to go?

Recognizing moments of disjointed connection is as important as celebrating connected moments. We are all experiencing ourselves in different ways at different times and that means that we will not always be able to resonate with those close to us. Recognizing and allowing this to happen is growth inspiring as it means we are honoring ourselves and having faith in the process.

Is it possible that the common belief of what a relationship is imposes too many restrictions on a state of bliss? If one is trying to fit into the box ~ or boat ~ of the commonly held confines of a relationship, how do those limitations affect ones overall experience of the world?

Ultimately, the confines of the relationship feel safe because one can know what to expect, or atleast believe they know what to expect. It almost seems as though it is from the fear of experiencing emotional pain that we have to put boundaries around the relationships we build, intimate and otherwise. Yet, if we begin operating within boundaries that make us feel safe from experiencing pain, how much does this then transpose to the rest of our lives? Is fear of experiencing the unknown the real root of this potential fallacy?

For me, the concept of bliss is being open to experience the richness of life moment to moment. If i have a fear of the emotion that goes along with experience, that in itself will limit what i'm open to experience and also likely set a pattern of self imposed limitations. Whew, deep thoughts on relationships early on a Sunday morning.

Bliss is Ongoing Work

Oh, the belief systems around love. Where and how did we impose such limiting guide posts on what love is? Valentines Day. The crop of expectations, aspirations, resentments and occasional moments of epiphany while digging through the roots of where theses beliefs originate. If one can face the prospect of being wrong about these beliefs, overcome them, and face life moment to moment as it unfolds, life can be the dynamic and enchanting experience it was meant to be.